Son of India.........

        Latest discussion that I hear every where is abt the documentary "daughter of India". Honestly I didn't like the documentary coz I felt it gave a chance for those horrible culprits to glorify themselves. He must have felt like a hero, it was his moment of fame and he showed it through out the documentary. So , I don't want to even discuss that man coz he is nothing but a mad dog ,who should  be put to sleep immediately ,exactly how we would do when a dog goes mad, but our system says he should have a fair trial . I wonder do we do the same ,when a dog goes mad ,will we give it a fair trial ? I don't think so , when a dog goes mad it is a menace to the society , and so are these rapist ,they are nothing but a menace to any living being but our system insist our tax money should be wasted on these anti social elements.

       My actual problem is with the sons of India , especially the 2 learned men in that documentary ,the well read ,highly educated defence lawyers. I always thought education made us human more sensible,  it teaches us to differentiate between the right and wrong,but here what I saw was totally different . What I heard these lawyers talk shocked me so much that now I wonder what change are we looking for when our learned people have such opinion about woman, what those culprits said didn't affect me much ,for ,such talks is expected from an illiterate man who has been bought up in totally different  world ,maybe he has always seen a woman in his family treated badly so he has learnt what he saw , but I wonder what was the circumstances in the house of these so called educated men that even education couldn't make them a human being ,they still remained a MAN.....when Mr Singh claimed he would burn his daughter if she was seen with stranger roaming around at nite, it really made me wonder , what type of environment is he bringing up his daughter ? My heart goes out to her. During the debate he said a good character person is the one who respects his elders , so is he telling us if these rapist treat their parents with respect than they are people with good character who just went astray that too because of a woman. It was shocking to learn about their right and wrong which in my opinion is sooo very wrong .This documentary made me think  how many educated men in our country maybe having this same view as these lawyers. This video was actually an eye opener where I learnt about our educated man's  mentality. By banning the video what are we going to achieve , instead of banning it , shouldn't we be thinking of finding a solution for this issue. But instead we hear everywhere is how bad is BBC work ethics , how badly india  is shown, etc . But I would like to know , what india is going to do abt this issue ? What we the people want?

           Well what I would like to do is educate these educated men more, first of all we women don't want to be flowers, nor mithai ka dabba, nor diamonds , please stop treating us like helpless commodity.  Please stop thinking man's job is to protect women .Please do us a favour and resign from that post. The only favour that a man can do for a woman is by letting her be and not give us so much unnecessary attention seriously by just doing this you will be solving 90 % of woman's  problems, and the other 10% we are strong enough to handle that. Also we women need to educate ourselves that by treating man like god we are just creating more monsters. We are causing more problems for ourselves by behaving helpless . Our culture says women is Shakti ,it's time to show them that. Its time to show few of these Men who believe India has a beautiful culture ,where women is nothing , that this countries culture is beautiful only because of the strong woman who held it together. Our country will only change to better when ever person believes they are equal in every way. When man and woman stand together as equal only then we will be a powerful country. When that happens we all can dil se say "India is my country and I am proud of it". But right now it's going to be like what my friend says " I love my country ,but I am not proud of it".

  

                  

SCMM is here again........

        Standard chartered marathon is here again , we train ourself like crazy for this very day. Whole year we are dreaming about this day ,The day for the most awaited run is here tomorrow , and I can actually feel butterflies in my stomach. I never understand why , I have already run  3 marathons this year but every marathon that I run I feel I am running for the 1st time. And funny thing is I am sure all runners are feeling the same . Each one is wondering how will my run be? Will I complete my run with good timing ?will the weather be good? Hope I don't get cramps . Which tshirt shd I wear hope my shoes is in good shape. Am I drinking enough water. Soooo many questions are running in our tiny little minds.

      Running is a passion which I know each runner who runs long distance understand. When I started running I started it just to make sure my husband gets into some form of workout. But I don't know when this workout became my passion. It changed my life in many ways. Running gave me sense of self confidence , I started totally believing in myself , I loved that ME time, I get when I am running. I don't know when the group I run with became my best friends , we became each other's support system. We loved sharing our happiness our sadness , our fears and ever feeling we felt. The best feeling is each runner is encouraging each other before ,during and after the run. When we see someone giving up during the run,some co-runners will give us a word of encouragement and you are back in action. Each runner is looking out for each other. We don't care if we know each other or not, but once we start running we all become a different breed of people who share a common passion, and that passion we call is RUNNING . It's wonderful to see people who get up early in the morning to stand on the sides of roads to just cheer us runners, making sure that we get enough water , fruits , sweets and best of all lots of love and encouragement. We runners feel so proud when we hear so many people cheering for us ,it's that love that helps us during the most crucial time of the run. Running is truely a mind over body sport. After 14 -15 km when our body starts giving up its this cheering we hear around us makes our mind active and our heart happy which actually helps us to complete our run.

        When we reach that finish line the hugs and the applauds we get gives us a high that you can never imagine it is feeling that can be only understood when it is experienced.  Honestly ,I think it's that high that makes us come back for run again and again and again.

      So before I go back to checking my tshirt and shorts, checking my bib number yet again, and seeing if my shoes is still in its place let me take this opportunity to thank my coaches suhas sir and samson sir for giving me this confidence and training me for my run, Sushma and Nitin for introducing me to running, to all my running friends who have become my closest friends, to the traffic police and mumbai police for making sure we runners are safe , for standard chartered for this wonderful experience, to my family and friends for their support . Last but not the least the people out there who get up early in the morning to just cheer us, without all your support the run would never be complete.......now let me check my bib again..... Thank you all .

      

  

Terrorism in name of religion...

   Children are our dream , the future we see in them. They are the future of any developing nation. And what happened in army school in Pakistan is shocking ,more than shocking its barbaric. So many children killed in name of religion. 

   Sometimes I wonder which religion is this that teaches people to be barbaric . As far as I know Hinduism ,Christianity ,Islam,Sikhism, Buddhism  or any religion can never teach us to harm any other living being. Religion teaches us to love each other, protect each other ,than , what religion do these people follow that teaches them to kill innocent people ? I wonder when they said they were retailiating to an action taken by the army against their family, they  wanted all to feel their pain, have the talibans ever thought about the kind of horrifying acts they have spread around the world ,if their family and loved ones are suffering it is coz of their own action. When they spread terrorism do they realise innocent people are the victims who suffer in their hands, in the same way the barbaric actions of the talibans put their own family and loved ones also to suffer . So if they have to blame anyone , they should blame themselves for the pain their family members suffer and not blame the army for the same.

     I am a mother I know how I feel if my child gets even a small scratch, For me it's unimaginable to even feel what those mothers are going through who have seen their innocent babies dead bodies. Just reading about it has made me a nervous wreak ,what are those kids , who experienced this nightmare going through is something none of us will ever know and pray we never know. I pray that God gives them the strength to face this tragedy though I know that is not going to be possible. These terrorist not just killed those children they have killed the whole family. The children who have survived will have this scar that ,they will carry with them for the rest of their lives, they have made them lose their faith ,coz somewhere humanity also died yesterday. Do they realise they have destroyed the future of their nation with their own hands ? Terrorism can never have any religion , these people are cowards who hide their cowardism behind religion. And people who blindly follow such cowards are bigger sinners and the ones who create such terrorist are the worst kind of human race ,I don't even think calling them human is justifiable.

     An eye for an eye can never be a solution it is the cause of all problems around the world ,and in all this the innocent people are the ones who are suffering. I hope that every nation around the world take firm action against such terrorism and also make sure the ones who protect such terrorist who call themselves protector of their religion should be punished severely.

    I pray for the children who lost their lives rest in peace , and children who survived this tragedy have the strength to be strong again. 

    It's truely said ' The Smallest  Coffins Are Truely The Heaviest '🌹🌹🌹

Need ur support plsss.

Hello

This year for SCMM I have decided to run for a cause. And I am raising funds through the Mumbai Marathon – Children’s Movement for Civic Awareness (CMCA).

In this Season of Giving, I am sure, you have many causes tochoose from and many who will appeal to you, as I am!

CMCA or Children’s Movement for Civic Awareness has been doing unique, path-breaking work for the last 14 years, as one among very few organizations in India which focuses on strengthening citizenship and democracy values in children and youth, through ‘active citizenship’.

At a time when our newspapers are filled with news of women being molested, or threats of radicalisation by political groups, or our open grounds and trees being slaughtered by vested interests, it is ONLY ACTIVE CITIZENSHIP that can save our democracy.

Is our education system preparing our young to put the nation above self and to engage with governance processes to preserve and strengthen democracy? Our current education system is sorely lacking in this area and that’s where Children’s Movement for Civic Awareness (CMCA) steps in.

Our students have filed RTI applications, complained to civic authorities, participated in clean-up drives, spread awareness on issues ranging from Right to Education to voting in elections. A group of students in a government school evenfreed their classmate from a factory and got her back to school!  You can read more such stories of our young “Action Heroes” and more about our work on www.cmcaindia.org.

Support Active Citizenship!

The Mumbai Marathon of January 18, 2015 is an opportunity for you to support ACTIVE CITIZENSHP and CMCA - an opportunity to be responsive to the urgent need for citizenship values in our nation.

Donations received by CMCA are used for the running of the civic club programme in schools, where it is run free of cost.

All donations raised through the Standard Chartered Mumbai Marathon are routed through the official charity partner – United Way of Mumbai.

Donating is quite simple.  You may send me a cheque in the name of “United Way of Mumbai” and I shall send it to them.  Alternately, you can donate online through the following link: 

http://www.unitedwaymumbai.org/fundraiser-4075

I will be highly obliged if u can help me raise funds for a cause close to my heart. Looking forward for ur support. 

  Thank u 

Sushma.

Blame it on the clothes....

     A man slaps Guahar Khan on the sets of  a show ,is an article I read today... It made me wonder ...we always think the older generation would be the one saying wear decent clothes wear covered clothes don't show your body blah blah blah... Not that I blame them ,that was how they were bought up . But here we have a 24 year old man saying this rubbish . We believe this is the new generation with new thinking we live in the new progressed world . We believe this are the generation who believe in change... Now ,this incident makes me wonder ....

   When I was reading the article I really wished I could go and meet this man. I really want to know does he really believe he is sane ? Has he ever heard himself speak ? According to him women in short clothes make boys /men sexually attracted to women and force them to commit crime like rape .they spoil the head of the man. Come on men for God sake stop hiding your perverted minds behind women's clothes. 

   Men always have some excuse ready for their perverted mind . They feel  women who wear short clothes ,wear it only to attract men . It's like we women are so desperate to get men's attention that we have to use such tactics . Seriously perverted minded men stop giving yourself so much importance . Honestly do men even ever know what a women wear . For such men even if a women is fully clad ,she is always naked all ready for him to oogle at and then say the women messed with his mind with her attire. Think about it why are school girls teased ,why women who wear sarees teased they are fully covered ,but still the men don't  spare them . If women's clothes were the reason of rape and Eve teasing then only the ones who wore such clothes would be raped then why a saree and salwar kameez clad girls get raped ? why are small girls raped ?why are babies raped? 

    Sometimes I wonder what would happen if women told men stop looking handsome you are messing with our minds ,stop wearing tight clothes you bring bad thoughts in our minds. After all women are human too they too have the same needs like the men have.. And believe me we too have minds . 

    To all such perverted minded men stop hiding behind women's attire to hide your own weakness and twisted mind . Show your manhood by changing your thinking instead of changing women's appearances ,afterall it should be easy for you. You ARE a MAN.....

     

I wonder why!!,

        I wonder why!!!! A discussion at dinner yesterday with my sisters made me wonder ,why ?? Well it was a discussion about a marriage of a girl we know who lost her dad ,so now for her wedding her mother won't be giving her away coz in India we don't let a woman who loses her husband be a part of any auspicious occasion ,and funny thing is we let a man be a part of any occasion even if he loses his wife.

      Why so much difference between man and woman. Woman gets married leaves her loved ones comes lives with man and his loved ones , she starts her life there ,adopting her husbands life as her own, starting a new life in new environment, she gets pregnant ,9 months she carries the baby in her womb and when child is born ,immediately the baby needs a fathers name . It's always about a man. Mother nurtures the baby ,she gives her whole youth and life to the child. Her every dream is for her child, she dreams of all the best things for her baby, she dreams of the day her little angel get married and starts her new life , she dreams about giving her daughter away to start her own happy journey, But suddenly if she loses her husband then she loses the right to give her child away too. I wonder why ,just coz the woman loses her husband ,how ,does she lose the right to give away her child ,why should she lose her dreams ? why should she lose the right to give her child away whom she has loved with her whole heart? What really changes in the mother and child relationship? So actually if we  think about it woman have absolutely no identity. She is just a daughter ,sister , wife ,mother with no rights without a man.

        How is it that a man when he loses his wife is allowed to dress the way he want ,he is allowed to sit for puja alone, give his child away , be a part of any aupisious occasion, Do what he pleases . Life doesn't really change for him, he can grieves for his wife for sometime and then go back to living his life just the way he wants,while for a woman everything changes . Society expects her to grieve for the rest of her life. So many don't , so many superstitious hockus pokus is thrown on her . 

        We call ourself people from developed country but somewhere we are still so backward. It's high time we stop all these superstitious nonsense,even if the mother is a widow it is the right of the mother to give her daughter away, it's she who has sacrificed herself for that child and honestly as a woman I don't want to be auspicious nor inauspicious let the woman just be a woman her marital status has nothing to do with being alive. Why can't we start treating a man and woman equal after all both are human ,the only difference I see between a man and woman, is man has xy chromosome while woman has xx chromosome. 

        

  

Life .... A learning process in every stage.....

         Life is a learning process in whatever stage we are in. Sometimes the learnings are good ,it changes you to be a better person ,and sometimes life takes tests which makes you wonder what is better ,to be good or to be bad..

        Sometimes people we meet really confuse us. It makes you wonder can we really trust anyone ever. Recently we met many people from different walks of life. We remember talking to these people listening to their problem sympathising with them, trying to understand them, believing every word they said. Their smile their love looked so genuine ,so real ,till reality striked. Every word they spoke was nothing but a lie. Nothing but an illusion that they wanted us to believe. Believe that good work is never forgotten, good work always pays . How they blinded us with their words. 

      But honestly were we really blinded or we just preferred the illusion than the reality. And what is more confusing is how people think , people know a person is good they know whatever work was done was totally for the people and it really helped the people, they were all only praises for him, he was appreciated by the world for his good work , he changed the whole place worked unconditionally for the people not thinking of his family  or himself ,and then what ,he was back stabbed by his own people. The people he trusted did not support him.

       Honestly what do people get by backstabbing , do they even realise that now they are a laughing stock coz everyone knows whom they back stabbed was truely a honest man. Who will be helping them now ? Will that person who was back stabbed ever be able to trust we the people. We say we want honest hard working educated people to work for the country and we the people only bring down such people ,did we really believe we made a right choice or we just closed our eyes and blindly followed a wave. Blindly followed words  not action. 

       Anyways I believe good people are always winners , coz their work will always be remembered ,they will always be protected for somewhere out there good people are appreciated  , and back stabbers will also be remembered for the stupidity they did and stupidity will always comes back to strike .Anyways all the best people hope life does not put you through a test where you wonder what you did was good or bad ........

Animal pays the price for mans fault

         The other day I got this video of the white tiger attacking the man and it made me think ...now this poor tiger will pay the price of a mans stupidity. We human are supposed to have something called brains which makes us different from animal. Unlike animals god gave us the power to think and use our brains ,but many times I wonder do we humans really use our brains sensibly?

        While watching the video I was wondering what was this man thinking ? 

How could he be so silly as to climb the walls even after being warned by the security personals . The white tiger actually was playing with the man for almost 10 minutes before he attacked the man, if u watched closely the tiger was wagging his tail and was what looked like playing with the man, I always thought when an animal wags his tail he is happy and in playful mood, at least that's what I see with my pet dog. Maybe I am wrong, but honestly I really didn't feel the tiger felt any danger by the man the only reason he attacked the man was when people started pelting him with stones, and it's very natural for an animal to attack to protect itself . While I was watching the video I was really feeling bad for the tiger coz I knew the man died coz of his own mistakes but now this cute animal would pay a price for someone else's fault. He will either be caged and isolated or put to sleep ,as now he is a man eater most unsafe for man . Sad such a beautiful creation of god will be suffering for a mans insanity.

      I still remember when we were younger we loved going to the zoo in Bangalore ,the Banargatta zoo. How I would get excited seeing the tigers and seeing different kinds of birds and animals there. We always made it a point to visit this zoo whenever we visited Bangalore . All our kids always enjoyed the day out in the zoo to watch  these beautiful animals. On  1 such visits we saw some hooligans troubling the animals they were making noise and throwing stones at the animals which was scaring the animals ,we could see the animals getting agitated. My sister and myself were so angry ,we screamed at them and asked them to stop behaving like that even after pleading with them they didn't not listen to us ,we than had to call the security guards ,who made these people leave the zoo. Why are we like that, what pleasure do we get by harming such beautiful animals , it's like we get some sadistic pleasure in doing so . How much noise we make when an animal attack us. Have we ever seen any animal harming us without a reason. Whenever an animal attacks it's always the fault of the man. We either encroach their place or we hurt them and self defence is legal even for human beings.

     Sadly in this incident a man lost his life and the white tiger may lose his freedom to live, freedom of the be with his own kind ,freedom to be in the open and enjoy the nature which is rightfully his to be in.. God bless the white tiger and give him strength to bear the consequences for the mistake of the man yet again...

     

Topic for today moral police....

       Mumbai mirror headline "Moral police out again armed with cp's 'new order'. I wonder if all read this article . I know this is a topic that many will have different views . So thought let me share my view . Well firstly I don't think there is anything wrong in hugging in public or holding hands in public and I don't think being in love or being infatuated is anything wrong.

      Well we live in a world with so much hatred around us, so a little display of affection is not bad. Why shouldn't someone who care for each other hold hands and put his or her hand on his or her friends shoulders. Is it really so wrong to hug a friend . We let rapist get away from raping a woman ,we don't say anything when someone teases a girl publicly ,the child molester gets out freely , everyday girls are groped , teased touched ,in every place they go , where are the moral police then. The moral police said they got a complain against the people holding hands or hugging or whatever they were doing ,but sometimes I wonder when a woman is teased or molested where are these people who complain. 

    So if I walk with my husband and hold his hand does that make me do something morally wrong or if my friend who is a man puts his hand around my shoulders with my permission make me lose character person?? We are a group of marathoners after we complete our run we just hug each other with excitement ,at that point none of us think we are man or woman we are just sports people , friends who have the same passion so does that mean people around us have the right to judge us and tag us as morally wrong doers?? Who decides what is morally right and morally wrong? And how do we decide that ? So are we saying a boy and girl ,a man and a woman can never be friends ,if they are together even as friends then people will always tag them as morally wrong doers....hmmmm so soon we should stop coed education and even work places will have to be only for men or only women.....I wonder do we really want to be a part of this kind of morally right society. 

      I agree we do need moral police but for the right reasons ,not reason like holding hands or hugging a person. We need moral police for stopping someone from forcing themselves on others , for stopping an eve teaser, for protecting our children from perverts . We need moral police to protect boys or girls from miscreants and protecting our right .

    I know many may not agree with my view ,but this is totally my opinion and I live in a democratic country so I am as of now allowed to express my view.. If I have hurt anyone with my view then seriously it was not intended ....

Happy happy Wala birthday.....

       Yippppeee it was my birthday . I love my birthday .i love reminding people it's my birthday ,it's my special day , bas it's all about sushma today ..wah wah I am happy. I always make sure I send a reminder to everybody to wish me and anyone who forgets to wish me has to bear the consequences.. Oohhhh  how I hate it when people I love forget to wish me ,so I play it safe by reminding everybody it's my birthday .i would love to stand on the highest mountain and scream "It's My Birthday....."

       Everyone always laughs thinking what halla Goola I do about my birthday but for me it means a lot. I believe every relative of mine every friend of mine who loves me should wish me ,as somewhere deep in my heart I feel my happiness is connected to all these wishes that I collect on my birthday. Each wish is so special to me  when I open my eyes in the morning to all the lovely messages I receive ,it automatically brings a smile to my face and at that moment I feel so blessed and so loved. 

        Today on my special day let me take the pleasure of thanking all my loved ones who made my day so special. Let me start from my brother in law sending me a birthday wish at 12 sharp ,My family waking me up to cut the cake at 12 ,my mother in law staying awake till 12 made me feel so special, my brothers and Bhabhis wishes ,made me feel like I am a good sister and good sister in law , My friends who stayed up till 12 just to wish me ,I felt so blessed , sushma more a sister than a friend sending me a happy birthday the whole day and coaxing me to cancel the class using different kinds of excuses made me laugh , masee making a beautiful saree as a gift, my Vivaan's best wishes made me so energised ,Sameera writing soo beautifully about our relationship bought old memories back, usha bringing a cake and my favourite chocolate made me believe friends can be found at any age , vikas and the my  bestest friend getting cake for me in the gym made me feel so loved ,and all the trainer and people in the gym became a part of the celebration, made my day more special. My djags group surprise gift and each of my running friends coming home just to wish me made me feel life is so complete and day felt so festive, oh my favourite 5 star cake felt and tasted the best .Jayshree thank u so much for actually doing such a wonderful job with my  snap ,it was beautiful. My sisters calls ,my niece and nephews from my and my hubbies side wishes always makes my day for me as I wait for their calls the most. My son in laws calls and messages are always special to me. Hey how can I forget my school friends well wishes after all old friends are like old wine always the best. Last and the most important people , My parents when they wish me I feel the most happiest as somewhere I feel they are proud about the fact that I am their little girl.

          Every wish that I got today is special for each wish meant you all were there with me to celebrate another year I completed happily ,and hoping and wishing I have many more years to celebrate with all of you year after year.thank you again each and all of you for all ur lovely wishes . Love you all dil se....

          Ohhh and the people who forgot to wish me I am soo excited that I can torture you for the next whole year for forgetting my birthday...now be prepared to bear the consequences ha ha ha .......