My little bird .....

            My granny used to love singing folk songs . There were many songs that I loved and kept asking her to sing it to me when I was a kid . There was one song that always touched my heart , though I never understood what it meant at that time , but somehow that song sounded so good and made me emotional . Well the song was in my mother tongue ," Pakkil muggi vonje gudu do batkondo undo gae ,aayete vonji kinniga rekke puttunde undo ga." it means 3 little chicks were growing together in one nest and now one of the little chick is growing its wings . When I was smaller I would never understand what it meant ,but whenever my granny sang that song I would love hearing it.  Infact she sang that song for me when I was getting married but at that time also I never understood the significance of that song .

        But today when my elder daughter has gone to other city to work this song keeps playing in my mind all the time . Today I truely understood the meaning of that song ,when suddenly my little girl is growing her own wings and is flying away from our nest . The nest  that she grew up ,the nest in which her parents kept her protected and loved her a nest where she fought laughed and played with her sibling ,our nest which our babies make a home for us . As parents we are always thinking our babies never will grow but one day they have to grow have to get their own wings have fly away to make their own nest their own home their own lives their own world . When our little bird grows and flies away to make her life we are happy for them happy to let them experiment find out how they want their lives to be ,see the world on their own ,but suddenly as parents there comes an emptiness , a fright that our little nest we built with our little girls is becoming empty , that emptiness is really scary but then that is life I guess everyone has to leave their nest their comfort zone to make their own nest create their own world . 

        

         My little one is out their figuring out her world thinking about her future and creating her new nest ,I wish her all the happiness ,all the luck , hope she finds her happiness her new world . Mean while this little nest of her will always be right here , always welcoming her ,always waiting for her and always loving her . God bless my little bird fly high and be happy always . 

Oh womeniya !!!!

      Have been thinking about writing for very long but couldn't find the right words . Words have been playing  on my mind since I watched  this 2 movies Pink and Parched . Seriously don't want to give my review about the movie . But want to share my thought about these 2 movies . Both movies made me feel good ,good about things changing around us ,thoughts changing or let's say thought have always been there but watching these thoughts in different perceptive that was something different .

       Well Pink showed how women can fight for their rights and true meaning of the word' No' . Which somehow people have actually forgotten . We tell our woman to have the guts to say a 'no ' but somewhere we forgot to tell our sons to respect the word 'no' . We live in a modern world where sex is no more a taboo topic to discuss so it's nice when we can openly discuss about such things .

      Parched on the other hand also portrayed about woman's right and about her needs and desires . Her physical and mental and emotional needs . Woman is a strong creature created by almighty only difference is her importance is decided by others in the society .she is judged as a daughter ,sister, wife , mother ,mother in law ,grandmother etc but she is never seen as an individual . 

      Both these movies touched my soul and seriously made me think . Why is it that we woman have to prove to everyone all the time  about our own identity . Why is that we need to remind people that We too can think on our own ,we  also can do things we want to do without anyone's permission. . When we are born our whole lives we are told we live in a democratic country , what democracy is this that woman needs to fight for her own identity . And why is it that we need to tell people to give woman their right ,and to treat woman equal. Isn't it something that goes without saying . Do we tell the men folks fight for your right ask people to treat u equal . Then why do we use such words for women . And honestly speaking why do we woman need to reminded we are equal  ,why do we need to be given this special treatment we should be knowing this, we are equal . We don't need to be treated special . 

       When a man drinks or parties or flirts he is not tagged a slut or a easy prey ,then why is the woman is tagged so . If a man touches a woman there is nothing wrong in it but if woman touches a man ,it's always considered as she is looking for a good time . We woman also like having friends of  different sex . We also like enjoying life queen size we like to drink ,dance ,roam around freely we too love cracking dirty jokes . And like a man we too have physical desires and like a man it's equally important to us . Then how come women who speak about her desires  is called a slut . 

       

               We live in a mans world ,if a man wants some thing he has to get it , while a woman is trained to obey what has been told to her , we woman are so scared to use the word 'No' . I have never understood why do we take a No as an insult . How come we never respect a 'No' . Honestly when every person understands the importance of 'No' we will never have any problems in this world . 

     I want a world where we don't need to remind people woman are equal ,we don't want people to keep talking but girls right ,woman's rights  .We want to be in a truely democratic world where We don't need any special rights, We want just equal rights once we get that nothing will stop our country's progress . 

Our heroes in Rio

I have been getting so many forward msgs abt who is performing how in the Olympics , how many misses and how many medals . This one is in the finals ,that one got a medal . It's nice to know we all so interested in our players . But honestly for me each and every player who are representing India  out there is a hero ,for we all Indians know ,all these  players who have gone there to represent india ,have not got the state of art training by our country ,the kind of training ,wht other sportsman and woman have got from their respective countries .i don't even think half of our player have even seen stadium like that . So for them to go there and perform is truly great . We all know the kind of treatment our sports people given .So for once let's forget abt the medals and salute all our Indian player who are in Rio representing our country . Each and every player is a hero and they truly deserve their country men and women to appreciate them . Hats off to all of them . These guys rock . Medal or no medals u guys are our heroes . And people let's not just support them today , or during the next Olympic , but support them everyday . They deserve it .

South Africa a dream come true country ...

  Whenever we speak of a holiday it always brings a smile and a glow to our faces , some holiday excite you , some makes u happy , some holiday makes u feel peaceful, while some just makes u feel blissful ,but my this years summer vacation is the perfect mixture of all these feelings. South Africa was the destination chosen by my family of 20 people . Let's forget about the hurdles and go straight to the day we landed in Cape Town ,we entered the city of Cape Town with so much anticipations,  mystery and confusion ,but as we landed here all this feeling disappeared we suddenly felt so positive and the beauty of the place took our breath away ,we were welcomed so lovingly by the immigration officers they put us so much at ease. When we got out of the airport we were welcomed by our guide Eliase tall dark well built man whose smile touched our hearts immediately . And then we were introduced to our driver, he would be driving us for next few days , Godfrey we were in love with him instantly, we started calling him God and he seriously watched over us like God would have done we felt so safe with him around us .

   I still remember Eliase would tell us a time he would want us in the bus and we being we would always be late but he would always be waiting for us with a smile and we always had our excuses ready for being late and God would just salute us with sweet Good morng and smile ,he was truely a man of few words . Eliase was not just a guide but an amazing story teller every place he showed us had such beautiful stories . He made us fall in love with South Africa, not just the scenic beauty but with history too, though we have read about the history of South Africa many times but hearing it again from him made us really understand it.  The beauty of the table top mountain ,the enchanting botonical gardens , the history of Robbin island and the amazing shark cage diving experience everything made us fall in love with this beautiful city called Cape Town .

    We left Cape Town with a heavy heart to vineyards at stellenboush . If cape town was beautiful this place was not just beautiful but enchanting , so many vineyard so much beauty with  yummy wine and cheese . We visited some beautiful vineyards with lovely farms and horses running around . We  saw some amazing antique cars . Evening we would spend time watching the mountain the enchanted us totally ,the beauty of this place was unbelievable too good to be true . We just kept pinching ourselves to see if we really seeing so much beauty or are we just dreaming. 

    We left stellenboush to go to outsdshourn a pretty quaint place with so many ostriches around . Here the Congo caves enchanted us ,the beauty of this caves mesmerised us totally . The interactive session with the animals was blissful . What touched me most was the way each guide we met made the whole experience more beautiful with the way they spoke abt the places we visited . I am still confused if the places were really beautiful or the way the guides described the place made it more beautiful.

   From outsdshourn we went to kynsna  via garden view . My god honestly I have never seen so much beauty it was like Mother Nature at her best . Every place we went was better than the other I really don't know which place I can call more beautiful. Kynsna is a perfect and beautiful place with the ocean ,the lagoons ,mountains ,everything u can imagine was there in kynsna so much beauty which takes your breath away . The drive from kynsna to port Elizabeth was beautiful ,here we were just spending a night as we had to catch a early morning  flight to Kruger our last destination in South Africa and best part of our whole trip .we were excited about Kruger but along with excitement we were very sad after port Elizabeth Eliase and God would not be joining us , when they were leaving we felt so sad we felt we were leaving behind our own family member we all had become so close that when we separated we had tears in our eyes . But I guess that's life we meet people we separate to meet again sometime in the future . Port Elizabeth was fun we loved the place we partied till late at night and met some amazing people there . Every person we met gave us so much love we really felt blessed . 

     Next morning we left for the best part of our journey Kruger the second largest national park . We had heard so much wonderful things about this place and believe me it turned out to be better than what we imagined it to be . We stayed in this beautiful place called Shishangeni private lodge which means a resting place .  It was inside the Kruger national park it was the most amazing place we had been to . The staff there were so amazing each one took such wonderful care of us . The game (safari) was the best part .here Harold was our ranger who took us deep into the jungle to see different animals he made sure we saw all the big 5 the buffalo ,the rhino ,the elephant ,the leopard and the lions . We were the lucky ones to see all these beautiful animals somehow we were lucky with all the animals imagine seeing 20 lions ,lioness and Cubs that too eating their hunt , we could not get enough of the lions , every animal we saw in close range . Harold was an amazing ranger he made sure we see all possible animals from the giraffe , zebra,  hippo ,hyena , jackals ,Impala ,kuddo ,Eagles ,vultures ,buffalo, rhino,cheetah ,leopard ,and best of all the lions . This was the best experience in my whole life . Here I must add the staff in the Shishangeni lodge were so amazing each one gave us so much love I have thank each one of them Philips ,soloman,thami ,prudence ,patience ,surprise ,prayer ,Norman,each one were so amazing and Valeria, and olga made such amazing food and the way they pampered us was beautiful .we love each of u so much no thank you all for the lovely hospitality.

    Like every good things must come to an end so did  our beautiful holiday I have never been so sad about  leaving South Africa ,we packed and sat in the car to leave Kruger but we never imagined what was waiting for us when we were getting out of Kruger we were given a grand farewell by the whole pride of lions ,lioness and Cubs. We were speechless with beautiful farewell we got . 

    We were to catch the flight to India from Johannesburg so we had decided we would take the Panaromic view  route . What an amazing view we saw through out this Panaromic view it was the cherry on the top for the end of the trip . We boarded the flight to India with a heavy heart but with beautiful memories  and some lovely stories and with many new friends for life  and ofcourse with a promise to return again and again for many more adventures and memories. South Africa you not just touched our hearts but touched our soul . Thank you ...

Life is beautiful

Read abt the suicide of an actor of the serial 'Balika Vadhu' , she was just 24 , an age where life should have been fun and adventurous ,at that age we all dream of a beautiful future , but this girl ended her life before it could even begin. In our country we take depression so lightly , when we know depression can make people take drastic steps . Why is it that going to a psychiatrist such a taboo subject ? Don't we go to a doctors when we get fever ,cold or cough  or anything that makes us feel our life is in danger ? When at that time we can go to the doctors then , why not go for help when our mind needs help ? After all that too is one of our own body part and going to a psychiatric help does not tag anyone as mad or mentally unstable , infact  according to me if we go for help its that one step closer to recovery , actually one step closer to becoming a stronger person. 

    We parents take so much trouble making sure our children do well in life , we always teach our children to be the best in everything they do , but somewhere we have forgotten to teach them failures is a very important part of our lives also , failures help us fight and rise up again . Makes us stronger people . We have to come out of the virtual world and face reality . We need to start being a true family who are like pillar for each other ,and most importantly I think we need to tell our children we are there by their side always for good or the bad , successful or unsuccessful , happiness or sadness  we as parents will always be right next to them . Hard times are part of life and we have to learn to fight it ,everything in life cannot always be perfect ,imperfection also is beautiful and we have to accept it . Strength of India is our support system our family and friends we need to support each other when we see our loved ones in trouble . That is what makes imperfect life so perfect . 

    People , life is beautiful very precious not just for the one living it , but for the ones who are the part of that life . Life is beautiful so , Live it , love it , fight for it coz we get it only once.