I wonder why!!,

        I wonder why!!!! A discussion at dinner yesterday with my sisters made me wonder ,why ?? Well it was a discussion about a marriage of a girl we know who lost her dad ,so now for her wedding her mother won't be giving her away coz in India we don't let a woman who loses her husband be a part of any auspicious occasion ,and funny thing is we let a man be a part of any occasion even if he loses his wife.

      Why so much difference between man and woman. Woman gets married leaves her loved ones comes lives with man and his loved ones , she starts her life there ,adopting her husbands life as her own, starting a new life in new environment, she gets pregnant ,9 months she carries the baby in her womb and when child is born ,immediately the baby needs a fathers name . It's always about a man. Mother nurtures the baby ,she gives her whole youth and life to the child. Her every dream is for her child, she dreams of all the best things for her baby, she dreams of the day her little angel get married and starts her new life , she dreams about giving her daughter away to start her own happy journey, But suddenly if she loses her husband then she loses the right to give her child away too. I wonder why ,just coz the woman loses her husband ,how ,does she lose the right to give away her child ,why should she lose her dreams ? why should she lose the right to give her child away whom she has loved with her whole heart? What really changes in the mother and child relationship? So actually if we  think about it woman have absolutely no identity. She is just a daughter ,sister , wife ,mother with no rights without a man.

        How is it that a man when he loses his wife is allowed to dress the way he want ,he is allowed to sit for puja alone, give his child away , be a part of any aupisious occasion, Do what he pleases . Life doesn't really change for him, he can grieves for his wife for sometime and then go back to living his life just the way he wants,while for a woman everything changes . Society expects her to grieve for the rest of her life. So many don't , so many superstitious hockus pokus is thrown on her . 

        We call ourself people from developed country but somewhere we are still so backward. It's high time we stop all these superstitious nonsense,even if the mother is a widow it is the right of the mother to give her daughter away, it's she who has sacrificed herself for that child and honestly as a woman I don't want to be auspicious nor inauspicious let the woman just be a woman her marital status has nothing to do with being alive. Why can't we start treating a man and woman equal after all both are human ,the only difference I see between a man and woman, is man has xy chromosome while woman has xx chromosome.